And the fact that even though he CAN doesn't mean he WILL. I had 50/50 split custody until my kids became adults and my ex has STILL never scheduled a doctor's appointment or made sure homework was done. He might have had them in his home about 50% of the time, but he certainly didn't take on 50% of the load. They called me to come get them if they were sick. They called me to feed them when he wouldn't. They left homework until they were with me because he never even asked about it. I paid all of the medical bills. I paid for phones and cars and gas. Because he wouldn't. But his child support was maybe $250 a month which didn't begin to cover our wage gap after I was home for 12 years.

My kids barely talk to their dad at this point, but the courts have it so wrong, it's absolutely ridiculous. When someone needs care, it seems one person usually steps up and they are alone. This is often the case even in families. There needs to be some serious reform and education. And don't even get me started about the abusers.