Oct 12, 2024
Being passive is different than laying there like a dead starfish.
And yes, there is a passive, active, and reconciling force in each interaction in life. Women are taught to be passive from the time we are little. So it doesn't surprise me that you found women who are passive.
What surprises me is that they laid there like a dead starfish. That is often the freeze response. Meaning they are having a trauma response to sex with you.
Whether this is because they've been traumatized in the past, so sex is ALWAYS a traumatic experience, or whether sex with you was specifically traumatic, it's hard to say. But I stand by what I said. If someone is laying there and not moving, you should stop immediately.
I wrote an article about it here:
