Haha I wouldn't know! My last partner seemed to be exactly what I needed and I did in fact learn so much from the relationship. He was emotionally supportive, took care of all the household tasks, celebrated my wins. On paper he was perfect for me. But in the end he was so controlling and isolating, without being willing to examine it or change, I finally had to leave. So what seemed healthy in the beginning turned into a nightmare. That's when I decided to be done for good.