He has worked a lot on himself under teacher Guy Finley www.guyfinley.org

I know he didn't start out this way, though I'm not sure he was ever into porn. We triggered major growth in each other when we met. For example, he used to hide away when he was having big feelings - sometimes for weeks. I told him I couldn't deal with that. In favor of not losing me, he learned to share his feelings instead of hide them from me.

The fact is, being in love and feeling connection like neither one of us had before taught us both a lot about how to engage with our partner. But it's taken a lot of work. And a big part of earning my trust was that from day one he was respectful to me - especially around sex. So I think by the time I met him he had just realized that sex is great but it wasn't worth destroying relationships over. And being pouty and disrespectful destroys relationships.

But he also chooses to work on bettering himself over watching TV or hanging out with the guys or whatever. It's just that important to him. Not many men, or people in general, are willing to do that. It's something we bonded over, because I wasn't willing to remain stagnant in my growth as a person either, and almost nothing has been more important to me.

It's where most of my articles come from - especially ones like "The Only Relationship Advice You'll Ever Need."