His ex, dare I say, seemed worse than him. She was physically abusive to the kids (while I was in the picture she got into a fist fight with their 17 year old daughter), and he claims she was physically abusive to him as well.

I never sat and talked with her. The few times I met her was at activities for their kids and we did not sit together. I honestly have no idea what she would say about him and their relationship if I asked. But she seemed at least as controlling with their kids as he did.

I think he was the epitome of a wolf in sheep's clothing. I don't think anyone can really pinpoint why they're miserable with him, they just are. I know he had another girlfriend who he claimed would agree to certain rules or changes around the house, but then "refuse" to follow through. So I'm guessing he tricked her into "agreeing" as well.

I believe his dad is an overt narcissist. He's in prison for molesting children as of a few years ago. I have wondered if he's a true covert narc or if instead he has residual damage from growing up with that for a father and an abusive ahole for a step father. I've heard you can show signs without having the actual disorder.

And I can't even apologize. Jack & Diane is one of the best songs of all time. So.