https://longafterthethrill.medium.com/maybe-life-is-learning-to-take-care-of-others-51a96a755aa7 here is the link.

Yes, there is a divide between those who are parents and those who aren't, but I'd think even your friend could see that a 30 year old seeking his father out isn't asking for round the clock care, he's simply seeking community as he embarks on this new and difficult mission. I imagine when you're about to become a father, you want to have the support of your own father. His dad certainly gave him the gift of showing him what NOT to be, but apparently he didn't think he was responsible for a life HE helped create. So yeah, I think your friend missed the point, and I think you dodged a bullet.

Dating apps are toxic - take your break, but maybe after that volunteer with an organization you care deeply about and see if you can meet someone organically which has the added benefit of being someone who has at least one similar interest/ passion.

I'm not dating anymore, but if I ever change my mind, that's the tactic I'll use.