I feel like men and women alike should work on themselves for a long time before attempting a relationship. I'm sorry about your son's experience, trauma bonds are very difficult to recover from, if you ever really do. I hope he's able to find peace.

My daughter is in a similar boat, though unable to divorce because her childrens' dad is downright scary when he's left alone with the kids.

I think there's going to be an adjustment period while women explore their freedom and men figure out how to be better partners. I'm glad we're in this period since it shows progress from our earlier years in which we were relegated to domestic baby-making labor with no other real options. It will certainly be an adjustment, but I believe we're learning how to spot good partners and how to spot toxic ones, so it's a necessary period of growth.