I guess because I hate housework, I've always just been happy for the help - my last relationship was with a man who was way better at keeping things clean than I was which was a wonderful change.

I guess if someone is putting dishes, that didn't clean, back into the cupboards, or calling it good after loading the dishwasher even if there was still a mess on the counters or whatever I could see feeling like the job wasn't "complete" but I also think that you can play to each other's strengths. For example, I'm short and tend to have a more difficult time putting dishes away if they're higher up - so my ex would always clear out the dishwasher every morning, we'd each load dishes as we used them, and we would clear away the dinner mess and wipe down countertops together every night after we ate.

We ended up buying an iRobot to vacuum and mop the floors just to make both of our lives easier - and because we both worked we had money to do things like that to make life easier.

And by not being bogged down with daily chores alone, we also got to some of the deeper cleaning much more often.

In fairness, our kids were also teenagers by the time we met, so we didn't have the weight of small messy people constantly undermining our work, but honestly, just not being left alone to be the maid service is all most women are asking for. We can work together and split up the chores based on natural ability, but if it feels like everyone is helping out, it's not so cumbersome.