I have an avoidant attachment style and most of your list does not apply to me. It seems like most of the things you list are more descriptive of narcissists. It's also possible that I experience the attachment style differently than maybe a man would.

I am definitely not one to jump in. The beginning is one of the hardest times for me. It takes a lot for me to give my full attention to someone.

I tend to get personal and deep in conversation very quickly, so that doesn't apply either.

I'm also pretty good at expressing my feelings, though that probably has more to do with age.

I've had multiple long term relationships - though admittedly very off again/on again - and only some of my exes were crazy 😜

For me it shows up more when I'm already in a relationship and things get difficult. I immediately feel like it's easier to just end the relationship than try to work through it.

But I will definitely agree that you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who's avoidant. It's probably the most difficult attachment style to manage. I've already made the decision to stay single for many reasons, but that's part of it.