I just realized why I loved your article so much! I think you're talking about mental labor. Taking a leadership role means taking on the mental load that women are always complaining about men not helping to carry.

Please let me know if I'm off base here, but it seems like leadership and mental load are intertwined.

"Mental load is the cognitive and emotional work that people do to manage their lives and the lives of others. It can include planning, scheduling, anticipating, preparing, and organizing. Mental load can also include the emotional aspect of family work, such as caring for family members, being responsible for them, and carrying the emotional impact of this work."