I opted not to address the nuance in my article, but you're right - there are cases in which damaged people will in fact punish their partners by not being available to them for a healthy sexual relationship.

For the most part, however, it's generally men complaining that women are "withholding" and in most cases it's due to a lack of attraction or desire, often because the woman does not feel like she has a partner in her marriage.

Thank you for reading and commenting!