I provide for myself because men have taught me they can't be trusted to. Women in general and me in particular - started out with the fantasy of the traditional marriage. Would we like a man to provide for us? Sure. Who wouldn't? But the cost has been far too steep.

Men do not respect a woman who is a drain on their financial resources. They just don't. Now if that woman has the ability to care for herself (robust career before marriage), maybe they do, but after being out of the job market so long, as a SAHW, my earning potential was limited and my husband didn't believe I'd leave him bc I was financially dependent on him. So he also believed he could treat me (and our children) as poorly as he wanted because I was trapped.

The fantasy of having a man "provide for us" has been turned into a nightmare, so you'd be hard pressed to find a woman, with any life behind her at all, willing to depend on a man for her basic care.

You should 100% be concerned about the state of relationships. Now that women aren't forced into marriage through financial need, men will need to figure out some other way to improve our lives - otherwise we're better off alone. Gone are the days when men could simply throw money at a relationship and call it a day. They'll have to value add with actual love, care, and support.