I think the thing people (maybe men mostly) overlook is that if their partner ever gets tired of being their live in maid, they will be left carrying the full load of the household alone. Why not realize that now, and make a much bigger effort? Think to yourself, "When my wife gets sick of carrying my dead weight, I'll have to do (fill in the blank) anyway, so I might as well figure out how to do it before I lose her."

Just a thought.