I'm currently working through past trauma and can attest to a healthy relationship being impossible until it's been done. I believe there is a planet full of extremely hurt and broken people. And dating can't and won't be successful until all who are in the pool can find personal healing.
At the moment, I believe most of us are pointing the blame outward "If I just find the right partner, I won't hurt anymore", but the truth is the healing must take place internally.
I'm grateful for the healing journey I'm on even if it currently means reliving a lot of painful experiences. And I mean A LOT. I'm honestly amazed that everything I'm remembering happened to one person in one lifetime and I know I can't be the only one with that much baggage.
I'm hopeful you'll find your match. We all deserve to be loved and fulfilled.