I'm sorry this happened to you. In the scheme of things I guess my friend's husband not picking up after himself is much better than finding out he's an abuser, but as another commenter said, you really cannot ever truly know someone. Which is scary on every level.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I've completely opted out of the dating pool at this point, but it's helpful for others to see that this is not a one off experience. Many women have been there in the most terrifying ways.