It may be "unskilled labor" but hiring for it is expensive. If you don't have free domestic labor from your wife - good luck finding maid service that will manage all those tasks for you, including child rearing - for less than six figures per year.

We also attended couples counseling multiple times over the span of the marriage. Our last counselor, after my husband declaring that he could not and would not kick his video game/porn habit, looked at me and said, if he's not willing to make changes, then I don't know if there's anything more I can do.

And just so you know, I make more than my ex. But good try.

Being alone was literally the best thing I ever did for my kids and for myself. And men like you remind me every day why I don't date and have no interest in ever being in a romantic relationship again. So thank you for that!