My ex thought for a time that he wanted to be a house husband, and lord knows I needed the break. But he basically just played video games all day and made our oldest (who was 6 at the time) care for her younger siblings.

I think a lot of men look at being a stay at home spouse as a vacation and don't actually do the work involved which is why the statistics look like this. There needs to be a cultural shift that allows for men to fill that role without judgement, but there also needs to be an individual shift in the men who think they're going to quit their job and just have a vacation.

I would wager most men don't truly value what their stay at home spouse does for the family.