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My Favorite Way to Get Hit On (If You Must)

Here it is friends, the playbook that gets my attention

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This picture shows a man and a woman sitting on a bench. We are looking at them from behind and we can see the park area they are facing that appears to have dozens of people enjoying nature. The man has his arm propped up on the back of the bench and his posture is turned towards the woman, indicating he may be talking to her even though he appears to be looking out away from her. She is facing straight, potentially not engaged, also looking out at the park.
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I was reading this article from one of my Medium friends

and I was getting more and more anxious listening to him describe the cold approach of women in public.

I am an introvert. And not just sort of an introvert, like on the Meyers-Briggs test I was 94% introverted. Interactions (especially of this kind) cause me a real sense of dread and panic. Maybe if I am somewhere that I understand the expectation is that we’ll be socializing it’s not as bad, but if I’m engaged in a task like grocery shopping or working out, it truly throws me for a loop.

Even when I was on the dating apps, those first dates were always a killer. I understand that this is probably not great and it’s been suggested that maybe I even have some level of autism since social interactions like this cause me so much distress, but regardless of the why, or whether I should be seen by a medical professional, I truly do not enjoy being approached by an unknown.

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