Not going to lie - I do have disdain for most men - when they're in relationships.

I have dozens of male friends, coworkers, family members, etc. who are wonderful men outside of relationships. I really don't know what happens when they are inside one.

For example, I was just talking to a female coworker who recently got remarried. She confided that she fell in love with her husband because he was a whole ass person before they met. He owned his home, has gainful employment, and took care of business. She was very attracted to the man who lived alone.

Now that they're married and living together he has slacked off. So the man he was as a single man no longer exists. He is now relying on her for most of the housework - not even loading his dishes into the dishwasher when he's done eating. Their kids are all raised - it's just the two of them - yet he still has this internalized misogyny that she is now his maid. She has talked to him about her feelings, yet the attitudes and behaviors persist.

We'll see how long she puts up with it. Us older women just don't have the fucks to give anymore. You're either a whole ass man and are going to join us in a partnership or you're not - and we'll go be alone since that requires far less work with far greater rewards.

THIS is what I do not like about men. They can be the bestest most wonderfulest partners - until they're not. And it's a societal issue. It is men in general.