Pretty much everything I write is something I've learned along my life's journey. Never did I say - you can't assess your attraction to a woman based on her appearance. That would be asinine. Every eligible partner must have some level of chemistry with us.

What I said was stop complimenting her on her appearance ESPECIALLY in the beginning. That's really only if you'd like to actually find a woman. The compliments come across as shallow and insincere.

I get the feeling you guys are getting defensive about it because you have not found another way to connect with a woman initially, so you take the lazy way and tell her what about her makes your dick hard.

But most women don't care what makes your dick hard. They want to know how they will find a CONNECTION with you. So if you want to find a wonderful partner and create a good connection, you'd better start talking early on about what makes you believe you will connect on more than just a physical level.

I really don't care if men listen to what I have to say. I'm simply telling you what some women are saying about you behind your back. You are clearly not required to read, acknowledge, or even respond to my words.

But you took the time to write a thoughtful comment. It makes me wonder why if the advice is truly offensive and unhelpful.