The constant questioning of my life experiences, by men on Medium, becomes very draining for me. I used to block those who wanted to argue. I've now given myself permission to not respond instead.

Your article has made me realize that the big feelings may be a bigger issue than I would originally have thought. We are probably triggering men - who have never been called out for bad behavior before. Many are willing to hear it and sit with it, but some are not.

Either way, letting someone else deal with their own feelings is great advice, and something women need to learn to do. We've long had other people's emotions thrust on us as though we have some magic wand to fix it. But I, for one, am tired.

Great article! I'll definitely be referring back to this one as I learn to place the onus of dealing with feelings back where it belongs!