This is probably the most honest, and vulnerable, response I've had to this post. So thank you for that.

And yes, I agree. I've seen it in my own life. This happened when I was 22. I'm now 44. I was given unwanted attention by old/older men from the time I was 11 or 12. By 22, I had learned how to mostly fly under the radar. Which I did.

My friend and I would go to the club to dance. I was a dancer. It was a way for me to blow off some steam from the week. I was never there to meet men. My friend claimed the same, though she clearly wasn't being honest.

Either way, I believe you are correct, but I believe that many men are barking up the wrong tree. Creating connection through similarities and conversation is the way to find that woman who will love you. Approaching an unknown woman in public (or at a bar) is far too random to produce good results. It's far better to meet someone in a place where you already know you have things in common (hobbies, volunteering, school, etc.)

I think it takes some maturity for a woman to "stand in her feminine power". It takes experience that 20-something year old women simply don't have.