Yes, the men who feel like victims in their own lives because they haven't understood the task are the ones I'm writing to here. I understand, especially when we're young, that there are things about life we simply need to experience and learn for ourselves, but I feel like there is a lot of misinformation being put out into the universe - namely that if you weren't born a certain height you'll never find love - when the fact is that if you continually improve yourself you will be much more likely to become the person that has options.

I hate the term high value man. It's condescending and silly. Each human has inherent worth. It's a matter of understanding that worth. To pretend that some humans are more valuable than others because of their income and appearance is absolute insanity.

That said, you also need to realize that it's true for every single person. So if you believe that only the most attractive women are high value and that you only want a woman based on her appearance you're shooting yourself in the foot. Because connection is not based on appearance. And attraction can grow based on connection. If you are limiting yourself to "high value" women, you will most assuredly never find connection - almost by default - because you are too obsessed with the shallow aspects of a person.

I know I'm preaching to the choir here, you've said nearly the same thing in your comment, but I'm mostly reiterating and agreeing with what you've said.