Yikes! That's terrible advice. Neediness is so draining from either partner.

But it reminds me - there's a great book called How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It and it has some very fascinating information about fear avoidance in women and shame avoidance in men. I think what comes across as neediness in when is often fear. If you ever read it (or if you have already!), let me know what you think.