YL Wolfe wrote a great article about this topic (linked below). She made this comparison: You are a businessman and you are looking to acquire a company. You do your due diligence. Everything aligns. You have calculated how profitable you will be given the current business model.

The transaction is then completed and you discover that they were lying to you about the state of the company.

This is called fraud.

It's the same for sex. If you, as a man, are just saying all the things a woman wants to hear so that she will give you sex, then you have defrauded her and you are guilty of rape - regardless of whether she said yes.

I'm hoping you will stop being defensive and understand that you have likely gotten sex through fraud and that now that you know better you will change your behavior immediately.

https://medium.com/liberty-76/when-yes-doesnt-mean-yes-48b2c76b3696