You can (and likely will!) meet the people who are supposed to come into your life at any place and at any time. Often when we least expect it. So these are certainly not hard and fast rules.

With this article, I was mostly hoping to empower men to meet in person. As you've said, online might be a good place to start, but so many men and women are unwilling to move it offline at this point, I don't think it's a good idea anymore.

I have sons in that age group as well! My youngest will be 20 at the end of Sept and my other son is 21. They are struggling! But I'm not terribly sad about it since they are still very young.

As my 21 year old son tells me, though, how can they meet the love of their life in their 30's if they have no relationship experience before then? Valid point.

I think you can tell your sons that as long as they are respectful to the women they date, they should not be getting "cancelled". It might be worth explaining consent (as many times as you can!) so that they don't cross any boundaries, but I don't think men typically get cancelled for normal behaviors (maybe I'm wrong?)

I wrote the article on consent below if you're interested. There are some comics at the end of the article that you can send to your boys that make the point quite clearly!

https://medium.com/long-after-the-thrill/teaching-consent-is-not-about-sex-1c996361be8b